Menopause Hub

Empower your journey through perimenopause and menopause with our expert-recommended toys, lube, books, and more!

October is World Menopause Awareness Month

Good Vibes participates in menopause awareness this month and every month! Did you know that many medical doctors get little training about the physical and other changes associated with menopause? But we have been getting detailed information from those in perimenopause and beyond for decades.

We know about common experiences like libido changes, needing to communicate clearly in relationships as sexual sensations may change, and post-menopausal issues like vaginal dryness. Whether you are looking to try a CBD product to minimize discomfort, add a vibrator to your life to add stimulation, or choose a great book to increase your knowledge, we're ready to help.

Start here with our blog post about perimenopause and menopause, and see our recommended products below. Knowledge is power!

Menopause Lubes Post-menopause the vagina can get more dry than you might be used to, thanks to hormonal changes. BUT! There's a lube for that! In fact, there are quite a few.

Menopause Potions, Serums and CBD With or without CBD or extra arousal properties, you might like to try pleasure and wellness products to add to your experience.

Recommended Vibes If it gets harder to get fully aroused and to orgasm after menopause, guess what? Vibes are here to help! Use them solo or choose a palm-held style for ease of use with partnered sex.

Recommended Air Pleasure Toys These toys feel like suction thanks to very rapid air pulses. Some users report very strong orgasms and high levels of arousal.

Dilators & More Some find their vaginas get tighter post-menopause, especially if they haven't had penetrative sex for a while. Dilators and lube can gently get the vagina ready for more play.

Menopause Books Our society doesn't set us up with good info about menopause (and especially perimenopause)--we are SO glad some of our favorite authors are tackling the task of helping us stay in tune with our bodies as they change.

Menopause Blogs

Is It Hot in Here Or Is It Just Menopause?

Perimenopausal vs Menopausal: What does it mean?

Better With Age: Aging & Sexuality

8 Ways Exercise Can Improve Your Sex Life

Self-Care is Radical

Feeling Too Tight?

Menopause FAQ

How do I know if I've entered perimenopause?

Perimenopausal changes aren't exactly the same for everyone, but if you start noticing changes in your arousal, orgasm, sleep, energy, or mood in your late 30s onward, perimenopause might be at least partly responsible. Your doctor can look at hormone levels for a clue, but our hormone levels aren't all the same either! Read up on this topic and see how much reflects your experiences—Heather Corinna's book What Fresh Hell is This? is an excellent place to start. And if you start experiencing hot flashes—that's a definite clue.

How do I reconnect with pleasure after menopause?

The easiest way is to stay connected to pleasure for the whole menopausal transition. The ways you like to be sexual may change, or they might stay steady, especially if you decide to do hormone replacement therapy. But the very best reason to continue sexual pleasure (via play with a partner, or solo) is to keep your body accustomed to those wonderful feelings. And it's also extremely helpful as you keep track of what does change. If you have a partner, make sure to let them know.

Are all lubes about the same if you've gone through menopause?

Not really, though some find their lube preferences are not pronounced or that they don't change much. But you might definitely find some lubes are irritating that were not in the past—as vaginal tissue gets more sensitive, it might not appreciate some ingredients! If a lube irritates you: Don't use it. Try something from Good Clean Love or another company that makes lubes with post-menopausal folks in mind.

What if penetrative sex is painful after menopause?

Vaginal penetration may be painful especially for those who don't take HRT or who stop having sex for an extended period of time during the menopausal transition (sometimes those who have been divorced or widowed step away from intercourse and notice the difference if they then find a new partner). You can try topical HRT cream (by prescription), which can add vaginal resilience. Make sure you are using a lubricant that feels great to you. Don't rush it! In particular, make sure you are fully aroused before any vaginal penetration. Dilators might help with this issue too. Above all remember that intercourse/penetration are NOT the only kinds of sex! Oral, hand jobs, toy play, BDSM, and even anal may be easy to enjoy for many, and it's important to be attuned to what your body and mind do enjoy as you explore after a time of change like the menopausal transition.