Best Anal Sex Toys for Women
Whether you’re a seasoned expert or an enthusiastic beginner, shopping for anal sex toys can be a little intimidating. Everyone’s body is different, and when it comes to anal sex toys for women (and people with vulvas) it can get even trickier because so many anal toys are made with the P-spot in mind more than the G-spot. But that’s why we’re here, we’ve put together a list of the most common kinds of anal sex toys, and the best anal toys in each category especially if you have a vulva (along with some tips on how to get the most out of them!).
Anal Safe Vibrators
Don’t go sticking just any vibrator in your butt. Any anal penetration toy needs to have a flared base, and ideally be designed for anal sex. When it comes to anal vibrators, I generally prefer anything with a bit of a curve to it so you can hit a 45-degree angle, curving the toy toward your belly button when it’s inside. That’s the magic spot, vibrations from a good, powerful anal vibrator will easily reach the internal structures of your clitoris from there, along with the A-spot if you’re lucky. You can thank me later.
We-Vibe Nova 2
Okay, this is a rabbit, not a purpose-built anal sex toy but hear me out. All the things that make a rabbit great for people with vulvas — simultaneous internal and external stimulation, a curve to hit all the right spots — makes a rabbit a good pick for anal sex. Just move it on down a little bit. While the bigger part is in your ass, the smaller one can stimulate your vulva. Don’t forget the 45-degree rule.
Luxe Zenith Remote Control Butt Plug
Once you’ve used a butt plug with a remote control, it’s hard to go back. These are great for solo use because you don’t have to reach all the way down to hit the buttons yourself, you can just keep the remote in one hand, and keep your other hand free for just about anything else. It can also be fun to give the remote control to a partner and let them be in charge. A vibrating butt plug is one way to make housework a little more interesting, that’s for sure.
Triplet Vibrating Anal Beads
This is another anal vibrator with a remote control, but its shape is what makes this one an absolutely magical experience. The Triplet is an anal bead style toy, meaning it has a series of increasingly large beads with a tapered section in between each one to give you varied sensations as it’s inserted or removed. I also like this style because it basically has three different difficulty levels, which can be nice when you’re easing back into anal sex or when you want a toy that can grow with you. Oh and did I mention it vibrates?
Anal Safe Dildos
What you want to look for in a dildo for anal is similar to what you want out of an anal vibrator: a flared base is a must, and keep in mind your own limits and preferences. Don’t get too ambitious and get a dildo that’s too big for you, it’s always better to err on the side of smaller.
Colours Dual-Density 8" Dildo
Dual density dildos are a lot of fun for any use, but especially for anal sex. Having an outer layer of softer silicone around a core of harder silicone gives you that realistic feel, and makes for a more varied sensory experience. This one has a flared base with a suction cup so you can use it in a bunch of different ways (and places). The cool thing about a flared base is that it’s also great for use with a strap-on.
Pixie Glow-In-the-Dark Silicone Dildo
The Pixie isn’t just an adorable dildo (who doesn’t like sparkles?), it’s angled for that 45-degree angle we’ve been talking about. The curve in the Pixie makes it great for reaching up and stimulating the G-spot and internal structures of the clitoris. Just angle it toward your belly button when it’s on the way in. This one has a flared base and it’s also compatible with harnesses.
Anal Training Sets
One of the things I love about anal sex is the work it takes to get yourself (and keep yourself) ready. These anal training kits are here to help. Each one includes a few different toys designed to not only stimulate you but help you get more used to (and get more pleasure out of) anal sex. Anal kits are fun to use solo or with a partner, but the way to get the most mileage out of one is to try and have a plug inserted while you’re just lounging around the house. That way your body really gets used to it, and you get used to relaxing around it.
Renegade P-Spot Kit
The Renegade P-Spot anal kit includes three different plugs, each one has a curved body with a thick bulb at the end. It’s a great pick for trans women or anyone with a P-spot, but it’s also a great pick for people with vulvas. The curved bodies make each size perfectly shaped to stimulate the internal structures of the clitoris and G-spot. Pair it with some internal vaginal stimulation and you’re in for a ride.
Naughty Trainer Set
This butt plug set is nice and petite. Each of the three plugs has a slim flared base so it’s comfortable to use while you’re up and walking around, the arms of the base will keep it in place pretty much no matter what you’re doing. I don’t recommend doing it outside the house, but just using a training kit while you’re at home and watching TV or cooking is an effective way to get accustomed to anal stimulation. It’s also just fun to be passively aware of your body in such an intimate and sensual way.
Temptasia Twist Kit
The anus is really sensitive to textural changes, and that’s what makes the Temptasia Twist Kit so much fun. The twisty design is subtle, but such an intricate texture can add extra pleasure to insertion and removal. This kit comes with three dildos of increasing size, each with the twist texture and a heart-shaped flared base. The bases are also compatible with harnesses and strap-ons and pull double duty as suction cups.
Anal Lubricants
For any kind of anal play, lube is an absolute must. You need to make sure you’re pairing the right anal lubricant with the right kind of toy, too. Silicone lubes don’t play nice with silicone sex toys, but they do provide the highest degree of long-lasting lubrication. Water-based lubes feel silkier, and they’re safe for any kind of toy, but they don’t last as long and they can get absorbed by the skin pretty quickly.
Read more about anal lubricants here!
Good Lube Gel Lubricant
Water-based lubes are underrated for anal sex. They might require more frequent re-applications, but they offer a silky, cushiony slickness that makes anal sex toys a lot more comfortable to use when you’re out of practice or just getting started with anal play. Plus they’re compatible with all your silicone toys.
Uberlube
A classic, Uberlube’s silicone lube is legendary for its longevity. Just a few drops will give you long-lasting lubrication, it’s a good pick for any kind of anal sex toy just make sure you use a condom on any silicone toys. It’s not the end of the world if you use a silicone toy with silicone lube, but over time it could degrade your toy so definitely proceed with caution there.
Sliquid Silver Silicone Lubricant
Sliquid Silver is another anal sex classic, a couple drops go a long way, and on top of that it provides a very tactile experience. Because such a thin layer of the lube stays in place during use, it’s easier to perceive the subtler textures and ridges on your anal sex toys.
Anal Beads
Anal beads can be intimidating, but I find they’re one of the more approachable anal toys for beginners or anyone who’s out of practice. Thinner beads are great for providing direct stimulation to your anus when they’re inserted or removed, and graduated beads are great because each bead is typically a different size, so you have multiple toys in one.
Sex And Mischief Black Silicone Anal Beads
This thin, whip-like string of silicone anal beads is 9-inches long and narrow enough for most beginners. Each bead stimulates your anus on the way in and on the way out, and the ring on the end is for you or a partner to hook your fingers in. These are really fun when paired with internal or external vaginal stimulation from something like the We-Vibe Nova 2.
Romp Amp Anal Beads
These beads are the graduated style, with each one slightly larger than the last. The tapered stem in between each bead makes them a good choice for practice or training. You can go one bead at a time, or go all out. The beads are wide enough at the base to provide pressure you can feel in your vagina when using your fingers or a toy for internal stimulation.
Jewels Beads
I am obsessed with glass sex toys. They’re so beautifully made, and when they’re made out of borosilicate glass (like this one) they’re extremely sturdy and safe to use — safe to use with any lube, too. This toy has a series of graduated beads that aren’t completely separated from each other, making for a smoother sensation overall. Plus, because it’s glass, it carries vibration really well. So when you pair this one with an external vibrator you can feel the vibrations in your G-spot and sometimes A-spot if you’re lucky.
Jaina Grey is a journalist and sex educator, her work has appeared in WIRED Magazine, Reuters, and many others. She’s covered everything from crime and courts to games, sex tech, and coffee, though lately she prefers to stick with the latter two. She lives with her partner in Seattle, Washington where they run a blog that centers sex, culture, and queer media, Nightbloom.co.
