Pet Play Meets Primal Play This Spring With Bunny Tail Butt Plug Tails, Bunny Masks And More
Spring is the perfect season for going on picnic dates, enjoying the sunshine, cleaning out your closet, buying colorful flowers… I could go on. But it’s also the perfect season to indulge in a new-to-you sex act or kink. And why not celebrate springtime by hopping into pet play with a new collar, bunny mask, or bunny tail anal plug? (Yep, they exist!)
You can practice pet play all year round, but if you’ve been looking for an excuse to give this kind of roleplay a try, ’tis the season. Ahead, everything you need to know about this playful, perfect-for-springtime kink—plus, the tools you’ll need.
What Is Pet Play? A Fun Kink Perfect For Springtime
Put simply, pet play is a type of sexual roleplay in which one partner dresses, is treated, and/or behaves like a specific domesticated animal—such as a bunny, cat, dog, or even horse—and the other adopts the role of their owner, handler, or trainer. Typically, people who practice a pet play kink enjoy that it provides a sense of escape from adult responsibility, says Gloria Brame, PhD, a sexologist and author of Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission. It can also just be fun!
That said, there are many different ways to put this kink into practice. If you’re a submissive, for instance, you might practice pet play BDSM, wherein your Dominant serves as your “owner” or “handler.” In this kind of a scene, your partner could give commands and rewards, or punish you for acting out, says Tim Lagman, CSE, a certified sex educator and founder of Sex Ed With Tim.
But pet play isn’t just limited to people in the leather scene—it’s also possible to enjoy the kink without identifying as a Dominant or submissive, stresses Brame. For instance, some “pets” might not have an owner, but a “trainer” who simply teaches them how to behave. Or maybe, you’re into the idea of dressing up as a cute, beloved pet, and you just want to cuddle up in your “owner’s” lap, she adds.
What Is Primal Play And How Does It Connect?
An animalistic kink, or a desire to partake in primal play, looks a bit different from a pet play kink. Whereas pet play usually involves just one person stepping into the role of a domesticated animal (and the other person continuing to behave in a “human” manner), primal play typically occurs between two people tapping into their wild side.
In practice, primal play typically looks like a “tussle for power,” says Lori Beth Bisbey, a psychologist and intimacy coach. Instead of one person rewarding, reprimanding, or ordering around their “pet,” this kind of kink could entail growling, scratching, biting, or erotic wrestling, says Lagman.
How To Participate In Safe Primal Play With Your Hunter Dominant
Whether you’re engaging in pet play or primal play—and whether you’re a Dominant, submissive, or wrapped up in a sexy and animalistic brawl for power—enthusiastic and ongoing consent and communication is key to a safe, respectful experience. You’ll always want to start by discussing your desires and boundaries: what you want the sexual scene to look like, what’s okay (and what’s off-limits), and what safe word you’ll use if you need to stop.
Always have a safety protocol, and negotiate what can and can’t be done during kink. Roleplay like pet play and primal play can both look like so many things, so it’s important to make sure you’re on the same page about the roles you want to take on and how your scene will play out.
During this conversation, you should also negotiate what you’ll both need after this sexual experience in order to “come down safely” from the heightened, intense state of arousal into a more neutral headspace. Some people might want to immediately discuss the experience they just shared, while others would prefer to cuddle or watch TV.
If you’re trying out primal or animalistic play, in particular, Lagman recommends planning safeguards for any rough activities that could lead to bodily harm. For instance, if you agree that biting is on the table, they suggest wearing a mouthguard and discussing ahead of time which parts of the body can be bitten.
Hop Into Roleplay With Bunny Play And Fantasy Play Ideas
The first few times you try pet play, you might want to dip just one paw in, so to speak. This might look like simply obeying your “handler” as they have you try out a trick or two. “Agree to try something for a short period of time, [and] create an easy scene—for example, one in which the pet is learning to respond to a simple command and then gets a treat,” Bisbey says. “See how it feels. Does it turn you both on? Is it fun? If you both enjoy it, then create a more detailed scene and try that.”
Looking for some inspiration for roleplay ideas? Try reading or listening to some erotica that features pet play, says Bisbey. You could also find ethical pet play porn that features consenting human adults dressed in gear, i.e. face masks, collars and leashes, and anal plug tails. Take stock of what piques your interest. Maybe, you’re interested in assuming the role of a bunny, with your partner playing the role of your “owner”; or maybe, you’re more interested in taking on the role of your partner’s misbehaving dog.
During a scene, the “pet” might choose to communicate as an actual animal would. It’s also possible for their “owner” to give them a pet name. But in order to elevate their pet play, many kinksters enjoy collecting some animal roleplay toys and props. Gear can help provide a sense of realism, says Lagman. For instance, you might choose to don a leather collar that helps you truly feel like your partner’s dog.
The Best Bunny Costumes And Masks To Set The Mood
Unsure what type of animal or pet you’d like to embody? Well, if you really want to enjoy the springtime vibes, this five-piece bunny set could be the perfect fit. You can choose to wear the entire ensemble, or just keep the bunny ears and removable tail to help ground the experience a bit. (It’s worth noting that while this product is technically a costume, many kinksters might prefer to call their accessories their “gear” instead—rather than dressing in costume, they’re embodying the pet of their choice, says Brame.)
Another option for pet play props? Masks. If you’re looking for bunny gear that’s a little less… cuddly, the XR Brands Bad Bunny Mask is made from faux leather, and features adjustable straps that will help it stay in place.
Bunny Tail Butt Plug Tails: The Ultimate Accessory For Pet Play
“People who love anal play are definitely going to love being tailed,” says Brame. What does that mean, exactly? Well, exactly what it sounds like—wearing a “tail,” attached to an insertable butt plug, that helps make a pet play experience feel all the more real. These toys also have the added benefit of providing added sexual stimulation.
In some cases, your Dominant—or pet owner, in this case—can also control the sensations you receive. The Magic Motion Magic Bunny, for instance, offers seven vibration modes, and can be controlled via an app. (Your “owner” might even ask that you wear it throughout the day in the lead-up to a sexual scene!)
But if that doesn’t sound like your thing, you can still experience the sensation of “fullness” of an insertable tail without a vibrating plug. The Crystal Delights Bunny Tail Plug is made of sleek, luxurious glass—you can even stick it in warm or cold water before playtime to incorporate a little temperature play into your sexperience.
If you’re looking for something that’s equal parts affordable and affordable, you could also try the NS Novelties Bunny Tail Mini. This one is thin and tapered for easy entry, making it perfect for newbies.
How To Clean A Tail Butt Plug And Keep It In Top Condition
After any sexual experience, it’s important to engage in aftercare—and a crucial part of aftercare is cleaning any toys and costumes. Most fabric costumes can easily be washed; be sure to check out their laundry instructions, says Lagman.
You’ll want to wash any insertable toys—or anything that came in direct contact with bodily fluids—as soon as possible. This is especially imperative for tail butt plugs. “For any toy that goes in [the] butt, it is even more important to very carefully clean, so as to transfer fecal matter and bacteria from one area to another, or one person to another,” says Bisbey. In most cases, gentle soap and water, or a no-residue, paraben-free cleaner like the Simply Foam and Fresh Toy Cleaner can help you keep your plug clean and safe to use. But ensure that you’re doing the best possible job keeping your plug in top condition, make sure to carefully read your toy’s instructions upon purchasing it.
Lydia Wang (she/her) is a New York-based editor, journalist, author, and e-commerce strategist with over eight years of experience in digital media. She enjoys writing about pop culture and entertainment, sex and dating, queerness, and health—and, more than anything, loves diving into the ways in which these topics intersect.
