Best Sex Toys for Trans Men: Top Picks for Pleasure and Confidence
Testosterone can change a lot of things–not just our anatomy but it can shift how sensitive different parts of our bodies become, what turns us on, how we jerk off and how we might want to play with other people. For other trans masc folks who aren’t on T, sex toys can at times cause dysphoria or discomfort. Folks who are pre- or post-op also have specific considerations to think about when picking out a toy. Not having the right toy tailored to your specific desires and needs can make sex an emotional challenge instead of a good time. Luckily, there’s many dysphoria-friendly sex toys to choose from!
Exploring trans masc sex toys is deeply personal. What works for you will not work for someone else. The variety and range of affirming and body-safe pleasure products for trans masc folks, people on testosterone and/or people experiencing bottom growth has grown immensely in the past couple of years. There are so many options of toys and tools to help you feel empowered and comfortable during sexual exploration. Partners and allies of trans masc folks will also find this sex toy guide for trans masc individuals useful in what gender-affirming sex toys to stock up on to ensure whoever enters your bedroom is ready for a rowdy good time.
Trans-friendly Vibrators: Enhance Your Pleasure With Confidence
When picking out trans-inclusive vibrators, think about what sort of sensations you like. A soft delicate touch? A hard rub down? External or internal stimulation or a mix of both? Don’t worry if you’re unsure or if what you once liked has changed. Part of sexual exploring can mean trying a few different trans-friendly adult toys to figure out what fits your body best.
Remember, there’s no one way for trans men to masturbate or use vibrators. For those with bottom dysphoria, one trans masturbating tip is to use a strong vibrator such as The Magic Wand over underwear instead of being naked.
Best External Vibrators Tailored For Trans Masc Needs
External trans masc sex toys can be small or large, pinpointed or offer a more broad sensation. Some are shaped in ways that cups a t-dick or oscillate instead of vibrate. Here are my favorite external vibrators whose design is particularly tailored for trans bodies.
Trans-friendly sex toys can target different needs. The Mini Marvels Bunny is a vibe with two prolonged ears that can cup to either side of bottom growth, allowing you to feel the sensation all around.
A vibrator that fits flat against your palm such as the Pom Vibrator by Dame offers a less pinpointed-sensation. Another FTM sex toy for folks who enjoy grinding is the Ruby Glow Dusk which offers multiple sensations of grind against.
A wand vibrator allows for a more broad, all-over sensation. You can choose between the cult-classic Magic Wand or a more travel-friendly size wand like the Ffix Mini Wand. These toys will also work for those who’ve had a phalloplasty.
For those who are post-op who have chosen not to have an erectile device, may enjoy the Pulse Solo Essential Stimulator, a masturbation toy where an erection isn’t needed for a good time.
Suction and Air Pulse Toys for Intense Stimulation
Ever since air pulse toys hit the market, they’ve been the talk of the town! These powerful toys use small bursts of pinpointed air pressure to externally pleasure a clit. These toys create a suction around your body so you have to consider the size of the opening when picking out a toy. If you have bottom growth, smaller holes might not fit you well. For trans folks who don’t want sensation over their entire vulva, these pinpointed toys are a nice alternative to traditional vibrators.
The Lelo Sila Sonic not only has a wider hole than other toys on the market, but also a flatter and larger opening that can help create a seal against the skin that’s needed for these toys. The Satisfyer Pro 2 has two interchangeable heads that can create two different sensations and a larger opening as well. If you want an air suction toy that is thinner in shape to fit between two bodies during sex, the We-Vibe Melt’s slim design is perfect for couples.
Why Trans Men Love These Inclusive Internal Vibrators
Penetive toys can be rabbit-style vibrators meant to stimulate both externally and internally simultaneously or internal toys specifically targeting the G- and/or the P-spot. If you enjoy penetration but using an external vibrator doesn’t feel good for you, a dildo or a non-vibrating internal toy may fit your needs better.
One of my favorite trans masc sex toys is the Pillow Talk Sassy G-Spot Massager. This toy has a powerful and rumbly sensation and has a great curve for G-spot pleasure. If you find your wrist hurting while using a toy inside, consider Rev Me Up, a vibrator with a great ergonomic handle which can also pleasure you externally. If you want a dual-action toy, the We-Vibe Nova is a fantastic choice. Its external wand stays in contact with your body and the curved interior is excellent for hitting the G-spot.
If vaginal penetration causes dysphoric feelings, anal penetration can be a fun and pleasurable alternative. Many trans masc folks find that anal sex can feel more affirming than vaginal sex. Owning a toy that is safe to do both, such as the We-Vibe Nova, lets you explore what you might find satisfying. Jix, from the trans-owned company Cute Little Fuckers, is a slim vibrator perfect for beginners interested in exploring anal.
Masturbation Tips for Trans Men: Pleasure Products That Work for You
There are so many ways to jerk off with gender-affirming sex toys! Strokers and sleeves cup around bottom growth to add sensation and can feel very gender euphoric as the motion to use these is up-and-down than in side-do-side. Another masturbation tip for trans masc people without bottom growth or those that want to increase size and sensitivity to their bottom bits, pumps can feel fantastic. Pumps can be used in combination with strokers, vibrators and other toys or just on their own. Pumps temporarily engorge your body and can be used on trans cocks, nipples, or entire vulvas. Pumping can feel very gender affirming for many trans guys–as well as pleasurable!
Best Masturbators And Strokers for Trans Men’s Pleasure
Trans men pleasure products, such as masturbators, are not always specifically targeted towards trans people. Most masturbators are created with a cisgender penis in mind so be careful when shopping and pay close attention to the size of the toy. Many will work with post-op folks, however there’s still options for pre-op folks! The Jack 2-In-One Stroker is a representational pleasure product for trans men with a ribbed cavity on the smaller side and doubles as a packer! The Good Head Sleeve Mini Stroker can be covered by a palm on one end to create a suction and is a good size for many trans guys. The Jackits Stroker Pad is a soft ribbed masturbator that you can lay over your body and grind against. Add some lube to keep it slippery and try pairing this pad with a wand style vibrator to diffuse the sensation if you find direct vibration too intense for your bits.
How To Overcome Dysphoria During Solo Play: Using Pumps To Minimize Dysphoria
The queer-owned company New York Toy Collective understands trans masc toys and have created the Trans Masc Pump Deluxe. This set comes with three different cylinders, rulers to measure yourself, and an easy one-handed pumping mechanism. Interchangeable cylinders means you can pick the size that works best for your body and use a larger size as your body grows if on testosterone.
The Temptasia Clit And Nipple Twist Suckers are suction cylinders that let you play with different erogenous zones and is fun for those who have sensitive nipples as well as folks who want to increase sensitivity to their chest. Pumps are some of the best pleasure tools for body confidence for trans men.
Top Strap-Ons And Dildos for Trans Men: Enjoy Safe, Inclusive Intimacy
Strap-on harnesses and dildos can feel incredibly body and gender affirming. While frequently used with a partner, there’s ways to utilize strap-ons to elevate solo play. Double-ended dildos can be stroked while also using an external vibrator to get off. Some dildos can be worn during the day for a pack-and-play experience. Here’s some of my favorite harnesses and dildos for trans masc folks for a comfortable and fun time.
Choosing a Strap-On Harness That Works for Your Body
With the variety of strap-ons for trans men, think about what’s important to you when you’re picking one out. Leather harnesses that are adjustable with buckles are ideal for stability, others like underwear style harnesses are comfortable and easy to slip on, or maybe you don’t know what you want so desire an affordable option to get you started on your strap on journey!
How To Choose A Strap On For Trans Masc Folks
If you don’t want to spend a lot of money for your first harness, the Entry Level Strap-On is a perfect starting point. Very adjustable, this harness won’t break the bank while still providing an intimate strap-on experience.
The soft leather of the Low Rider Harness is both comfortable and functional. Buckles ensure a snug and sturdy fit.
Underwear harnesses can feel gender affirming as it appears you’re fucking another person while just in underwear. You can wear these harnesses under regular clothes. The Tomboii Boxer Brief Harness isn’t just sexy, but super functional with multiple pockets for bullet vibrators, lube, and two elastic O-rings so you can adjust where the dildo lays against your body.
How the Right Dildo Can Help Minimise Dysphoria
Dildos are trans masc sex toys that can feel like an extension of you during sex! This can create a mix of emotions. For some, it can feel distressing to be fucking someone with a toy you can’t actually feel. If you’re curious how to ease gender dysphoria during sex, the right dildo can ease any dysphoric feelings that might arise. Representational dildos, double-ended dildos and pairing dildos up with a vibrator can create an affirming and intimate experience.
The Maven Silicone Dildo is a representation dildo designed for a realistic feel as it has a soft flexible outer layer of silicone paired with a stiffer inner silicone that helps this toy keep its shape during penetration. Colours Dual-Density Dildos come in a variety of sizes and colors, letting you customize your experience.
Some folks might not want a realistic toy and luckily there’s so many dildos in fun colors and shapes. The Avant P2 Pride True Blue Dildo comes in the trans pride flag colors and has an accessible shape perfect for beginners. For a hands-free sex toy for trans men, explore double-ended dildos. These can be worn with or without a strap-on harness and let you enjoy the fun with an internal bulb that stimulates the G-spot. Double-ended dildos, such as the Strap On Me Vibrating Dildo, can help ease gender dysphoria during penetrative play as it lets the wearer feel the penetration.
How To Make Strap-On Play Comfortable And More Enjoyable
As previously mentioned, picking out the right strap-on harness and dildo for you is important when trying to feel comfortable during strap-on sex. For beginners, I recommend wearing your strap-on around the house by yourself first. This allows you to get used to taking it on and off and will help you feel at ease with how it feels against your body.
When playing with a partner during strap-on sex, let your imagination guide you. While you might not be able to feel a blow job performed on a strap-on, it can still feel fun and pleasurable to watch and partake in. Using a positioning tool can ensure you and your partner are hitting the right spots as well make sex easier on your joints and knees. If you’re finding your pubic mound to be sore or just want to add a grinding element, using a toy like the B.Cush Silicone Base can act as both a cushion and something to grind against.
Exploring Gender-Affirming Products: Tools for Comfort and Euphoria
If looking for AFAB trans gear, there’s a couple options to explore! Packing gear for trans men and stand-to-pee (STP) devices can be worn all day allowing for a comfortable all day gender experience. Packers are prosthetics that you wear under clothes. STPs are tools that help you use the bathroom and pee standing up.
If you haven’t had top surgery, picking out comfortable chest binders can ease gender dysphoria. Chest binders flatten the chest for a more masculine appearance. All of these gender euphoria products assist in making trans men comfortable on the day-to-day.
How to Choose the Right Packer: A Guide for Trans Masc Folks
So how to choose a packer when there’s so many various aesthetics and styles out there? The best packers for trans men and trans masc folks depends on personal preference. Pick a smaller packer for a smaller bulge or a larger packer if you want something more noticeable. Packers can be circumcised or uncircumcised. Silicone packers are heavier and easy to sanitize but are more expensive. For soft packers for daily wear, check out TPE packers which are squishy and light. Most packers are available in various skin tones but if you’re looking for something more playful, there’s also colorful packers as well.
Soft vs. Firm Packers: What’s the difference?
Previously mentioned packers are soft packers made for everyday wear. They’re soft and fit in your underwear and provide a sensation and look for gender euphoria and comfort. Hard packers, or hard packing, is packing with a dildo that can bend and be worn in underwear or with a strap-on harness under clothes. The Carter is one such dildo and ideal for a pack and play experience. This means you can play with a partner anytime, anywhere as you’re wearing the dildo while out and about.
Packing Underwear: Finding the Right Fit for Your Lifestyle
To wear a packer or STP, you need specific packing underwear or harness to help keep the items from slipping. The Pete Packing Briefs replace regular underwear for something sexy and comfortable you can wear all day, with an open fly front for ease when using an STP.
Alternatively, the STP Packer Strap is another gender-affirming pleasure tool as you can pair it with your regular underwear. This can help ease gender dysphoria as you can wear a packer while wearing your own style of underwear.
How to Use an STP Device Safely and Effectively
Here’s a quick STP device guide for beginners. To use an STP, you press the opening against your body to pee inside the funnel and guide the pee out of the tip of the stand to pee product. When learning how to use a stand to pee product, practice in the shower a couple of times before using it elsewhere. When holding it against your body, keep it firm but don’t crush it against your body. Position your urethra in the middle of the cup which may be further back than you realize. Try to pee at a steady pace and leaning back and squeezing may help you achieve distance. Make sure to clean your STP after use!
Top STP Devices for Comfort And Functionality
STP packers are similar to packers in that there’s many aesthetics and sizes to chose from. One popular trans masc affirming product is the Sam Silicone STP. On the smaller side, this soft silicone STP can be worn all day. For a more realistic look, this TPE Stand To Pee has a representational look and larger funnel opening which some will find more comfortable to use.
Finding Comfort In Your Body With The Right Products
By now you should have some good ideas on how to reduce gender dysphoria during sex and masturbation with gender-affirming products and trans masc sex toys for FTM folks. Exploring and experimenting with different STP packers and harnesses as well as trans-inclusive vibrators and other gender euphoria products can help increase pleasure for trans men. Picking out the right dildo and vibrator can also increase pleasure for trans masc folks.
Remember, pleasure isn’t linear, especially when hormones are added into the mix, so keep exploring and experimenting!
Archie Bongiovanni is a queer comic artist and sex educator living in Minneapolis. They're currently living, laughing, and loving (their Magic Wand). Find them on Instagram @babywrist
